three_month_question

Is three months too soon to ask what this is?

We've been seeing each other for just under three months. Twice a week usually, sometimes more. We've met a couple of each other's friends, we text every day and neither of us has mentioned dating anyone else. I asked if they wanted to come to a gig with me in November. They said they don't like making plans that far ahead with someone they're "just seeing". The phrase *just seeing* has been rattling around my head ever since. I don't need a proposal. I don't even need some massive relationship conversation right now. But I realised I've been behaving as though we're building towards something and maybe they think we're simply having a nice time until one of us doesn't want to anymore. Is three months enough time to ask somebody what they're actually looking for with you? I don't want to manufacture pressure where there doesn't need to be any, but I also don't want to spend the next six months being deliberately relaxed because I'm scared the truth will scare them off.