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The assessments

Short, honest sets of statements built on the psychology of ambivalence, avoidance and attachment. They're written for whichever side of the grey zone you're on: the one asking for clarity, and the one asking for time.

20 statements · both sides

Not ready, or just comfortable?

The one most people actually need.

'I need time' can mean two very different things: someone genuinely working through something, or someone quietly comfortable with an arrangement that costs them nothing. This assessment tells the difference, and it's written for both parties, because the person asking for time often can't see the pattern either.

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12 statements

Am I in a situationship?

Name it before you try to change it.

Twelve honest statements about how your relationship actually works, not how you hope it works. You'll find out whether you're deep in the grey zone, on the edges of it, or in something mostly defined.

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12 questions

What's your attachment style?

The engine underneath the pattern.

Secure, anxious, avoidant or disorganised: attachment style shapes what you do when someone goes quiet, and why the same ambiguity feels unbearable to one person and comfortable to the other.

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8 questions

Which situationship profile are you?

Why you, specifically, stay.

The Healer, the Optimist, the Drifter, the Avoidant or the Loyalist. Eight questions about how you cope, why you stay and what you most need to hear.

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