--- title: "lostinlimbo88 (in the grey zone): 0 situationship stories, 16 replies | TheGreyZones" url: https://thegreyzones.com/stories/users/lostinlimbo88 description: "lostinlimbo88 on TheGreyZones: 0 anonymous situationship stories and 16 replies, written from both sides of the grey zone. Posting since August 2026." lang: en --- All stories (https://thegreyzones.com/stories) Community member # lostinlimbo88 Every situationship story and reply lostinlimbo88 has posted on TheGreyZones, anonymous by design. Stories 0 Replies 16 First seen 15 Aug 2026 Last active 24 Sep 2026 ## Stories (0) No stories yet. ## Replies (16) - The missing check-in can hurt even more when you are already ill and dealing with a broken boiler. Whatever their reasons, the difference between the care you expected after eight months and the thumbs-up you received is important information. 24 Sep 2026, 08:03 · on The person I was seeing disappeared when I got sick (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/the-person-i-was-seeing-disappeared-when-i-got-sick-2cw9n) - I recognise the confusion of sharing ordinary couple life with someone who still refuses the word. The seaside weekend can have been real to him without meaning he wanted the future you wanted. 22 Sep 2026, 13:05 · on Two years and I still dont know why (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/two-years-and-i-still-dont-know-why-a8gao) - Their absence when life became inconvenient tells you something important about what this connection currently includes. It is reasonable to want basic care even without a formal label. 20 Sep 2026, 20:01 · on The person I was seeing disappeared when I got sick (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/the-person-i-was-seeing-disappeared-when-i-got-sick-2cw9n) - Seeing his car at work would make the boundary much harder, but your example shows why keeping every exchange practical matters. A polite conversation does not have to become emotional access again. 19 Sep 2026, 20:02 · on No contact wasn’t possible because we work together (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/no-contact-wasnt-possible-because-we-work-together) - The empty weekends can be the hardest part because the routine disappears before the feelings do. Planning something specific for that time may be more helpful than waiting for the urge to contact him to pass on its own. 18 Sep 2026, 08:02 · on I broke it off and still miss him (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/i-broke-it-off-and-still-miss-him-zme11) - The question about children cannot be solved by loving each other harder. I hope you can talk about it directly, because neither person should have to surrender a whole future while pretending the loss is a compromise. 16 Sep 2026, 08:02 · on I loved her. I still didn’t want the future she wanted (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/i-loved-her-i-still-didnt-want-the-future-she-wanted) - I recognise the phone checking after seeing that somebody has moved on. What helped me was removing the easy ways to check for a while, so every difficult moment did not turn into another look. 14 Sep 2026, 08:03 · on She said she needed time but just moved on (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/she-said-she-needed-time-but-just-moved-on-0va65) - im sorry, that sounds rubbish. you really need to get out of there for your own sake. 5 Sep 2026, 05:28 · on I just asked for a label after five years (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/i-just-asked-for-a-label-after-five-years-20a55) - honestly mate, i feel this so much. he is just using you for a bit of comfort when it suits him. dont wait for him to change because he clearly likes things exactly how they are. its just not fair on you. 5 Sep 2026, 02:29 · on Why does he still want me around (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/why-does-he-still-want-me-around-eunx5) - Honestly mate, stop punishing yourself for being human. If you really want to break this cycle, you need to write down every single time they made you feel small or ignored your needs. Put that list on your fridge. Next time you feel like unblocking, read that list out loud to yourself. It makes the reality impossible to ignore. 3 Sep 2026, 04:41 · on I left them and came back a week later (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/i-left-them-and-came-back-a-week-later-e2yre) - im sorry, that sounds rubbish. honestly, you just need to put your own happiness first for once. 31 Aug 2026, 19:37 · on I just asked for a label after five years (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/i-just-asked-for-a-label-after-five-years-20a55) - i feel this so much. its the scariest thing when the dynamic shifts and you realise you might lose the best thing you have just cause your brain is wired to run away from labels. glad you got your head straight before it was too late. 31 Aug 2026, 17:56 · on I thought I wanted casual. Turns out I just didn't want to rush this one. (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/i-thought-i-wanted-casual-turns-out-i-just-didnt-want-to-rush-this-one) - im sorry, that sounds rubbish. it is really tough when you feel like you are walking on eggshells just to keep them happy. 28 Aug 2026, 19:27 · on Did I ruin the weekend or did I just ask a normal question? (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/did-i-ruin-the-weekend-or-did-i-just-ask-a-normal-question) - to be fair, you are being really hard on him. he told you he wasnt ready, he was honest, and then you just cut him off. people are allowed to be unsure about commitment. 28 Aug 2026, 06:12 · on I broke it off and now I am spiralling (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/i-broke-it-off-and-now-i-am-spiralling-dv48m) - i remember feeling exactly like this. honestly just delete his number or block him now. my hands were shaking so much but i managed to do it and honestly i felt so sick but it was the best thing i ever did. pls dont text him, its just a trap. 20 Aug 2026, 09:19 · on Five years and he just said "okay" (https://thegreyzones.com/stories/five-years-and-he-just-said-okay) - im sorry, that sounds rubbish. dont be so hard on yourself. 15 Aug 2026, 03:05 · on Did I ruin the weekend or did I just ask a normal question? 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